1999: We had to wait for the washing machine man again this morning before leaving for Edons. When we got there I presented mummy with my first handmade card that I had made at toddlers yesterday. I think she liked it, but I’m not that sure because her eyes looked a bit wet. When mummy picked me up she had the card in her car and said that she had also had it on her desk with her at work today. Edon reported that I have been a tyrant today (whatever that means!) and that at toddlers I hadn’t let anyone else play with the toys. Well, why should I? They’re all “mine” and it’s not my fault if the other children have a problem accepting this fact. Things didn’t get any better with mummy She thought it would be a nice relaxing change tonight to take a walk to the pub and have some chips and a “dink”. She eventually gave up on the walking, putting me in the buggy and stating that it was a change but the relaxation thing just wasn’t working out. In the pub garden, I made a discovery and I wanted to share my tip with other children. If you sit on the toy train ride and shout “mum” at the top of your voice at least 50 times, your mum may ignore you but the nice young lads give you 20p to put into the slot just to get some peace. The way I see it everyone’s a winner – they get a quiet peaceful drink, I get a ride and it hasn’t cost mum a penny!
2019: Haha. Can just imagine me continually shouting out. My stubbornness hasn’t abated. But to be fair, I wold also be one of the lads giving the child money for a ride! No pub tonight but another little truck I’ve learnt – dinner was ready and waiting for her royalty when she got home – Blue Cheese Brioche Burgers, complete with flowers and rose wine. Hmm. Not sure how the cheese is going to get on in my bowel. Think it might be in for a tough fight! They tasted good though
#toddlers #tantrums #washingmachines #repairs #childminders #toddlersclub #sharing #cooking #bluecheese #crohns #IBD #childhood #adulthood #pubgardens #screamingkids #childhood #adulthood #humour
1999; Weather not so hot today so I was back in trousers. After Edons I played in the garden and watered the plants. I had crisps, strawberries and melon for tea (hardly cordon bleu but I enjoyed it). I watched mum peel off the melon skin with her knife and then copied her with my own plastic one but it looked much easier than it was. Mum and I played football. I’m getting quite good at scoring goals but mummy has to play goal scoring too, to my “ready, steady, go”. I had such fun that I refused to come in for a bath and after many hysterics and tantrums; I ended up in bed at 6.30. What ever happened to free expression? We did have a cuddle and a story though. We had ‘Peepo’ for the first time in a couple of weeks and I knew most of the words. I wasn’t to be defeated though and stayed awake until 8.45, following a bottom shower at eight due to the poo factor.
2019: Continuing on the bum theme – mum rang hospital today and they cannot see an appointment with IBD nurse and they are not sure what’s happening with my colonoscopy re-schedule or the barium I was supposed to have after my early year check up. On the flip side, she has managed to get me an appointment with the IBD nurse on Thursday – Result!
#crohns #toddlers #toilettraining #childhood #adulthood #football #goal #tantrums #hospitals #chronicillness #food #fruit
1999: Tried to get into mums bed at ten last night, but I obviously hadn’t grovelled hard enough as I was promptly returned to my own bed! I did manage to achieve my goal at three though. The washing machine man came round again this morning. I took my beanbag into the kitchen and sat watching him work and then we left him to it and mum took me to Edons. I managed to have dry pants for 4 hours at Edons today and I used the toilet. I played in the garden tonight, coming in for tea – yum, yum cannelloni, and back out in the garden before bed. Cant waste this lovely weather
2019: A glorious today too. Saturday sunshine. Off to my cousins 18th birthday party. I spied the hot tub as soon as I got there and lasted a two whole hours before borrowing some shorts and getting in. And that’s where I spent most of the day. The birthday girl got in briefly this evening – fully clothed for some reason (guilty as charged) but she took it in good humour. Had a brilliant day with my family and my bruv and I were the last to leave just before midnight.
#toddlers #birthdays #cousins #brothers #family #parents #toilettraining #sleeping #childhood #adulthood
1999: We had a slice of Pa’s homemade fruit loaf for breakfast and I took mine to Edons to finish it off. I really wish Pa would give mum some lessons in home cooking. Mum came down in a dress this morning (the one with the zip at the back). She didn’t have to say anything, I said “oh”, jumped up and told mum to sit down so I could reach to do her dress up for her! I think she was suitably impressed. I got to reverse the car down the drive this morning but let mum finish the rest of the journey to Edons. When mum picked me up I insisted on sitting in the back with no seat or booster and mum discovered that the seat belt actually fitted me much better this way and so off we set. We had finger food for tea – chicken fingers and Alphabites, with ketchup of course. I got sauce on mums arm and I ran off to get the kitchen roll and wiped it all clean. Mum is beginning to wonder where all this grovelling is leading!
2019: Glad I got my cooking skills from Pa, although I’ve not quite developed into home baking yet (Unless packet cake counts?!) Last day at work and hapy to get home for the weekend. Had a great evening with Zofs Aunt and Uncle who are staying with my new best friend Esme. Gotta love a kids movie
#toddlers #childhood #adulthhood #homebaking #movies #parents #family #cooking #driving
1999: Got put back in my own bed 3 times tonight, but I won in the end. She’s just far too drowsy for a showdown in the middle of the night. It’s lovely and hot today. I played in the garden while mum made sandwiches and off we went to Marsh Farm. We arrived so early that I got to drive round the car park twice sat on mums lap. We spent 3 hours at the farm and had our photo taken on a cool postcard Machine. Once home, I played in the garden – shouting at Emma through our peep holes in the fence. We went to see Nanny and Pa and Pa has bought a cricket set for our holiday and a new bedtime story book for me (if I can get it off mum that is). We played in the garden and I shouted really loudly at a barking dog – “shut up dog”. Nanny says now she really knows how I get spoken to at home (although I must say mum has never called me ‘dog’). Mum assured her that it is only during times of severe trauma, but I would like to point out that this is her trauma and not mine – I’m absolutely fine
2019: Never was a good sleeper. Still struggle now. Mind whizzing at 100 mile an hour, or stomach cramps from wind and crohns! But once I’m asleep – it can be like waking a rock and apparently my snores are loud enough to shake a mountain. Talking of which, meeting at work today to discuss my fundraising event in support of my mount Snowdon run in July for @crohnsandcolitis.uk. Aviva are being very supportive and we are going to fund raise for 3 days at beginning of July including a cake sale. Mum offered to make some gluten and lactose free muffins but Mark pointed out I needed to sell these not give them away!
#toddlers #mums #parents #childhood #adulthood #crohns #colitis #IBD #Snowdon #fundraising #muffins #cakes #insomnia #MarshFarm #driving #mentalhealth #fundraising #Aviva #lactosefree #glutenfree #humour
1999: Into mum’s bed in the early hours – soaked. Mum thinks I’m storing, she could be right. Makes a change from her accusing me of snoring I guess. Mum was up before me this morning and she bought me milk in bed at seven. We had an “uddle” in bed whilst I had my milk and mum had her tea. Spent the day with Edon and mum fetched me at five. It’s been lovely and hot today and I’ve got a bit of a tan. Played in the garden tonight and went for a bath at 6.15. Drank milk on the settee and fell asleep there again at seven.
2019: Late shifts all this week (yawn) but at least have a party to look forward to on Saturday (mum just text to remind me) Yeah! Love a little party, love my car and driving too but am also taken with Giethoorn Village in the Netherlands which I have just stumbled upon on Facebook. It has no roads, only canals with 176 bridges. You have to leave cars outside of the village and get to it by foot or boat. Must be really peaceful but shopping must be a nightmare. Meanwhile, I’ve just seen KFC are doing 20 hot wings for £5.99 until the 14th July …. that’s the diversity of me!
#toddlers #pottytraining #mums #parents #childhood #adulthood #canals #cars #KFC Giethoorn #Neverlands #diversity #Party
1999: Same old routine this morning although I did grace mum with a small cuddle on the settee. Mummy picked me up at four from Edons and off we went to Agal’s party in Chelmsford. We had lots of yummy food and she had some wicked presents and lots of friends. I soaked everyone with a water pistol, opened one of Agal’s presents when no one was looking and blew out the candle on the cake. Well, it is my birthday, they just don’t realise. Mum didn’t seem very supportive of my theory. Agal didn’t seem to mind though – she was having a good time too. Mummy and I got home at eight and off to bed. It took me half an hour to fall asleep as I was busy planning my next birthday party.
2019: Ah. What fun we used to have with Abby. They moved to Ireland when I was 4 and we moved to Lincolnshire. Sadly we didn’t see Abby again as she died in 2005. Mum and Mark are off to see Karen and Mark and her siblings Kate and Finley in the next few weeks but money stops play for me. The last time I saw them was about 6 years ago when we went to the Abby Harding Memorial Foundation Ball in Tandragee and I also met up with John and Jacob from those 1999 years. For more information on theis wonderful foundation, supporting families of children with an acquired brain injury, you can find the Abby Harding memorial Foundation on face book
If you have suffered the loss of a child you can get support at https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk
Helpful books for children struggling with loss are:
Badgers Parting Gift (Mum and I read this when we lost Bomper)
Muddles, Puddles and Sunshine
#toddlers #birthdays #childhood #adulthood #parties #ireland #lincolnshire #bereavement #bereavementsupport #AbbyHardingMemorialFoundation #chelmsford #balls #reunions